Long Distance / Military Relationships

Hello!

So it has definitely been a while. This year has been a complete rollercoaster for me and if I'm honest there have been some very very dark points, but right now I am feeling pretty positive and wanted to give this another shot.

So... as its remembrance day, and as an army girlfriend, I thought I'd bring up military relationships.

The question I get asked most: How do you do it?!

Simple.. I would rather have one phonecall a week, seeing my other half for one week every 3 months, have letters and emails sent to me... than not being with him. That's how I do it. Because either you do it, or you do not have the person that you love in your life ever.  

I admit there have been times when I have struggled with it, but this is not my first relationship like this. I have been in several long distance relationships before so I am fairly used to it. Infact my boyfriend actually lives in my home town which is rare! however he isn't here very often due to training and other things. 

At the moment my boyfriend Josh is in Bosnia on tour. He left on 1st July and he comes back on 2nd December hopefully, 1 day after our 2 year anniversary. When he gets back he will have had another birthday not at home, it's my birthday in 2 weeks and this will be the 3rd birthday of mine that he has missed due to work. 

On the plus side, we have so many exciting things when he gets home! We have his first mess do where we get to dress up all fancy and it'll be the first time I see him in his posh uniform, then we are going to a hotel in York for our 2 year anniversary (two weeks late but hey ho ;) ) then we are going to London for Winter Wonderland, which I am SUPER excited about!

So there's another tip, when they are away make lots of exciting plans for when they get home! It keeps you busy and makes happy talking about it with them rather than feeling sad and continuously saying how much you miss eachother, which obviously we do say to eachother but it's best not to dwell on the fact its been 17 weeks since you've seen eachother, think about the good times for when they're home! :)

Anyway I think I have rambled enough.

Today think of all of the men and women that have fought for our countries and our freedom.. and think of the friends, families, wives, husbands, children that sit behind waiting for them and giving them a reason to fight.

Love to you all 

xoxo

Holiday Photos :)

Hey Hey! Ok so I know i've been REALLY slack! :( I'm sorry - I had 2 job interviews last week then on friday we found out that on sunday/monday my boyfriend was being flown to Canada for 2 months! So we were very shocked and gutted about that :( So I spent my weekend glued to his side! and so today he flew off and I started my first day at my new job too! Bit of an emotional rollercoaster tbh!

anyways a couple of people were interested in seeing more holiday pics so I thought I'd upload some for you all :) xx

What would you like to read on my next blog post? Beauty? Love? Life? Advice? let me know!

Toodles ♥

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Get To Know Me (TAG)

HeyHey

Well I've only been blogging for a month and so far haven't really had the chance to show you ..well me! as I've been overwhelmed with assignment and such (but all that ends next week WOO!) I saw this tag on Subtle Coral's page, and thought I'd give it a go :)

1. Is your hair naturally curly or straight?

If I blow dry it - straight, if I leave it to try itself a sort of wavey/curly :) 

2.  What is your natural hair colour?
Blonde !

3.  Do you dye it yourself or do you go to a salon?

I Have never dyed my hair in my life! Keep being tempted too but can't bring myself to do it

4.  How often do you wash your hair?

Every other day

5.  Do you wear the same hair style everyday or do you change it?
I mostly have my hair down and straight, but I do wear alternative hairstyles a few days a week too :)

6.  Do you do your own mani/pedi or do you go to a salon?

Do it myself :)

7. How often do you change your nail polish?

Hah... well I'm a little bit of an addict.. probably 3 times a week, this week since Monday I've already done them 3 times :$ 

8. Do you polish your toes in the winter, or just in the summer?

All year round, I don't really like my feet so by painting my toes it makes them feel a bit prettier

9. How long does it take you to put on your make up?

everyday look around 10 minutes, going out probably 20-25... I always have to have a battle with my contact lenses before hand when I'm getting ready to go out

10. What do you do first, face or eyes?

Face!

11. Do you "collect" make up or only buy when you need?

Nail varnish I collect.... everything else, only buy when I need, as I'm a student and atm I don't have money to spend on myself, it all just goes on food at the weekend when I stay with my boyfriend.

12.  How often do you wear false eyelashes?
Never, I've worn them once for a like Under 18 fancy dress thing my friend dragged me too... but they didnt stay on well so I've never dared where them again! 

13. Do you wear a full face of make up everyday?
Not really, only when I'm going to college, or out with friends or something, if I'm just sitting at home then I don't :) Even sometimes when I go to college I don't put foundation on, sometimes just concealer, blusher and mascara.

14. Do you wear make up when your staying at home?
Rarely, only if there's a chance of my boyfriend randomly asking me to come over, or if I'm feeling a bit rubbish i put it on to make me feel better! 

15. Will you leave the house without make up?
Hmm... I have done, but only if I'm wearing my glasses as I feel a bit more disguised lol I will leave the house with minimal makeup (just a bit of blusher and mascara) but I rarely ever go out with none on as people always say I look ill... 

16. How many high end products do you have?
None, unless you count Avon as high end? and that was a gift. I would definitely say I'm a budget beauty blogger:P

17. How often do you clean your make up brushes?
Probably not as often as I should! :$

18. Do you decide your OOTD every night or when you are getting dressed?

For usual everyday things - when I'm getting dressed

For an occasion - the night before :)

19. How often do you change your handbag?

Very rarely! as I said, I don't have the money to go spending on other things! 

20. What time do you get up and go to sleep?

On a day off, I wake up at around 8:30 but sometimes lye in bed for a while, I go to sleep somewhere between 12am-2am :)

21. How often and when do you work out?

Every night I do 30 (or more if I can) stomach crunches/situps

22. Left handed or Right handed?
Right handed

23. How tall are you?
5ft4 :$

24. Do you speak a foreign language?
I took my french Gcse when I was 14 (year 9) and got a B, and then did my Spanish and got an A

so yes I speak a little bit of French and Spanish - not as well as I used to though as I've not spoke either for 2-4 years, I'm better at translating it then me making the conversation though if that makes sense?

25. How many pets do you have?
1 - a west highland white terrior (westy) called Poppy!:)

26. How often are you on Blogger?
Pretty much everyday

27. Do you read the comments posted on your blog?

Definitely, and reply, although I'm only new so haven't had many yet! but I will always read them!:) 

28. Do you keep a list of products to try as you see other posts?

Sometimes I will note down something I like the look of yes:) 

29. How did you come up with your blog name?
Well with my real name it's difficult to really get a nickname out of it, but with a mix of that and my middle name a few people called me LJ, but I thought that looked a bit boring so it became EllJaye :) 

30. What kind of camera do you use? 
Either my phone camera  (Samsung Galaxy S2) or the Casio EX-ZR10. I also have a Fujifilm HS20EXR but I use that for photography on adventures more than my everyday blog photos:)

31.  How often do you clean your house?
Well I live with my parents still, but I clean my room just.. whenever it needs cleaning really! depends how messy I've been that week:P

32. What is your favourite colour?

Black - although thats not really a colour, pink and mint green :)

33. What is your favourite beauty/fashion magazine?

Elle

34. Do you swear?
I do... one of the side effects of dating a geordie:P 

35. What are you doing for the rest of your day?

I'm going to go watch Despicable Me 2 with my mr, as he's obsessed with the minions! then I'll be going back to his and probably remain there for the weekend, If I don't post that's why - no signal or internet :( 

Anyway! so there's a little bit more about me! You ever want to chat to me just message me or tweet me! I'll always reply!:) 

Speak soon!

Toodles ♥

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Live Life For You!

     Hey hey :)

So after recent events over the past couple of weeks and I've actually thought about this over the past years too but I never actually stick to my word. I've come to the decision that it's best to just
  live life for you!

I am the type of girl that does whatever to make someone else happy, even if I end up being unhappy in doing that... and that is not the way to be! It is important to not be completely selfish and expect everyone to work around you but sometimes you have to think about whats best for you, will doing this thing for someone, postpone something that you need to do for yourself? If so... maybe everynow and then, put you and your own life first.

I seem to have a habit of that when I have a boyfriend, I put everything into them. What career I plan on doing - I base that around what days they work so that I can have the same day off as them so we get to spend time together. I won't see my friends on a weekend because I like to see my boyfriend then. I don't go out and do things just incase I get the chance to see him on an evening & it gets to the point where I realise.. I am giving up or sacrificing pretty much everything, and there is no compromise.. I am literally doing anything for them, and as much as that is nice for someone to do every now and then.. when you don't exactly get it in return you end up feeling like you're the lesser one in the relationship, or the one that loves the most out of the 2 of you. & If I'm honest.. that isn't a great feeling. So my lesson there is -

Don't put your life on hold for anyone, unless they're willing to do the same for you.

Do what makes YOU happy, you only get this life once, don't waste it being miserable whilst making everyone else happy. Sometimes you just have to say no to them, and help yourself :)

Write soon :)

Toodles ♥